The Battle of lose, or lose!

Spouse, the most beautiful and sacred relationship we share. Has a victory even in a lose-lose situation. Seems funny and strange, but you are loved to eternity only when you lose or give up.

There are two faces in this battle, you may either lose on some discussion and topic or may win the person forever, who is your life, soul and everything. Very complicated, yet amazing.

The intricate bonding between the two souls has numerous levels to pass/clear before you are designated as husband/wife in the books of society, for someone you want to be with.

Besides, juggling with other roles of life. For me, the most challenging one is the role of a spouse. Wherein, depending on the situation and mood of your partner you need to switch on to the various roles such as father/ mother, daughter/ son, husband/ wife, best friend/ colleague, immediately and constantly.

Marriage is nothing but a treaty signed by two different people for the peace in the relationship, they owe together in the journey of life. So that whenever you tend to win over some cause or matter the treaty reminds you that you got to pay heavier than your victory.

As a result, you end up losing once again. But don't forget you won a person again.

Ready to choose the battle of lose, or lose?

When the Heaven struck!

The day when I was struck by unconditional love, care, affection, and joy is the day when the complete world within me was discovered.

And then began the journey of beautifulness and togetherness.

Not just spending time with you, the time spent even waiting for you is precious. Because I would be delineating about the time I will be reliving.

Every passing day in your absence, the desire to be with you is the only thought that keeps me going throughout the day. Sometimes time conspires around you. 

Just the thought of you, or when I hear your name, nature paints the beautiful color onto my cheeks by elevating the charm and I start blushing.

Awaiting to create more such wonderful memories!

To be continued...

Unbiological Siblings!

The new neighbour seemed weird, was not sure that we would ever communicate. Known very little, but never tried to get closer. Surprisingly! one morning bumped into each other with a great shock, & realised that we were tuition mates. Neither of us were happy. In fact, were afraid of that one would taddle to our parents.

We never spoke much, with rare and awkward greetings and smiles. Boom! Coincidentally we are batchmates at the computer class too. And the awkwardness grew, but fortunately our communication grew too and got to know a little bit.

We kids those days before smartphones enjoyed picnics, it was decided in the class that we're going to picnic. With excitement all of us were ready. Road trips are amazing with moving scenaries, good weather, & friends. As expected at the end of picnic we were not just friends but almost a kind of Family.

Accompanying each other home after the great day, we tried to know more about each other. Few days later, the numbers were exchanged. Casual wishes, texts, meetings and fun began. As days passed we began to share the secrets, & realised we and our situations are alike. Teasing, meetings, sharing, roaming, outbursting, supporting, dancing, singing, acting, playing, helping, gifting and many things brought us much closer than expected, that there were no more requests.We could demand anything to each other.

Amidst, all this. The special day *Raksha Bandhan* was a celebration of this beautiful relationship. There started a wonderful journey as siblings.

Not every sibling are born in the same womb, it's a good thing.

We are all blessed with an unbiological sibling to add an extra joy into our life...aren't we?

SuSiblings!

How was your day?

There was a time when most of us desired to be pampered, instead, we were asked to adjust. Super excited to share the things we experienced and did throughout the day, no one was interested to listen to, and ask, "How was your day?".

As an introvert child, we grew to be the fondest person to many, because we didn't want others to seek an ear to listen to. Was unaware that not all have gone through the same, what some of we went through.

Trying to be who you weren't, may lead you to be vulnerable and aggressive. The vain of suppressing one's originality will result in discontentment, which leads to aggression and depression.

A child tends to blame itself for everything and the behavior of everyone; for instance: if parents get divorced it doesn't know that their parents were incapable of maintaining a  healthy relationship. Instead, two things might happen either it blames itself or fate, The self-blaming child grows to become a depressed person who tries to seek emotional comfort in others, in fact, he may be in need of reliable counseling. And the one which blames fate grows to be a person expecting everything to go as he/she wishes. If that doesn't happen, guess what? your right! he blames fate again.

Cultivating this practice of asking someone how was their day leads to two things, you either give or receive compassion. If you had a good day you pass on your positive vibe and if you had a bad day you receive the reassuring comfort from your beloved.

Rather than expecting someone around you, why don't you be the one to lend your compassionate heart to listen.

So here's an ear to listen and a heart to ask...How was your day?

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Gesture: The Universal Language

The gesture is a universal language, though it may be a handshake to the strangers, a hug from/to your most beloved one or gifts to make someone feel special.

Instilling such wonderful gestures of comforting, soothing and gratitude is a kind of keeping your dear ones happy and showing them how important one is for someone.

You are immediately boosted with positivity and energy when someone you come across smiles at you. A smile is healthy, contagious communication. At least try to spread a smile, you never know to whom that may be a great gift.

Not only positive gestures, but there are negative gestures too, which need to be converted into positivity. Like, some may never smile, or like to be hugged, or to shake hands. Need to accept and respect their choice, with empathy and try to understand the reason behind it, they might be having a bad day, try to just sit with them, sometimes even your presence is a gesture.

The gesture might sometime be an encrypted language between two beloved souls, who cannot communicate freely in the presence of the foreign entities. so they accommodate the language of their own domain. Which can be decrypted only by them.

If you are running short of words, let your gesture speak!

Wondering? What might be your next surprise?

The Unemployed Employee!

Not all relationships are meant to be final. Have come across some inferior lazy fools who acquire the care and concern by pleasing others with emotional and monetary support, till their last breath. 

Wake up! you inferior lazy fools. Like, others you too are equally blessed with one brain, two hands, and a body.

When your mother fails to offer delicious food for a day out of sickness or boredom. You expect and manipulate your friend to offer you a free meal by either inviting yourself as an uninvited guest to home or partying outside. Ultimately she is the one who takes care of the home, where you retire at the end of the day.

When your father fails to fulfill all the basic needs due to challenges in health or lack of ingenuity. Stop blaming him for who you are, at least he hasn't taught or asked you to sit idle and beg for mercy. Be thankful that fundamentally he is the one, brought you to the world.

When your siblings fail to understand, don't complain or backbite in front of your friends about them. As they are your blood relative, you have every right to ask and complain to face directly. Maybe it's your foolishness and ego which has sealed, your mind and eyes in learning and understanding from your sibling of good deeds in life.

When your spouse fails to comfort or take care of you whenever you're in need. That's because there might be a possibility that you're unfixable and she/he has given up on you because it's pointless to explain to you and put some sense in you, but yet somehow she/he tolerates you and your naivety just because of the promise she/he have made on your wedding day, this sacrifice of hers/his should be appreciated, if possible even celebrated! Your spouse cannot be replaced by others or their free meals.

When your children fail to take care of you according to your expectations. You can't be hurt. First of all, when they're old enough they're on their own, you don't own them. Second of all, your children have seen their parents how he treated his parents, there is a saying; "what you sow, you reap".

And finally, when your sensible friend try to help you realise the significance of responsibilities and duty towards the every aspect of life. You lack in understanding the fact and blame the friend for misusing you.

Last but not the least, when you are left out with nobody around to blame, the ultimate one goes to the creator for giving you the birth on this planet. 

Thinking this world is not suitable for you.

Stop repenting and blaming about what you dont have, start doing something and utilize your life by your deeds. Inspire! Try to be a true man!

You know? No matter how many movies are made, articles and blogs are written and shared on social networks. You need to have that moment of epiphany.

How many of you'll are gonna be inspired and begin the actual job?